What relationship in your life do you wish you could improve?

I wish I knew how to make real, offline, local friends.

Making friends online I can do and I have a wonderful, large, circle of friends who I love to pieces but they’re scattered all over, mostly in the states.
I can talk to people at gigs and conventions, add them on social media and stay in touch, meet up at the next gig, the next con.

But people who I can just make plans with, have pizza and watch a movie. Local people who I can spend regular time with. People I can hang out with so I’m not always so lonely I have no idea how to meet. Someone to have a relationship with would also be pretty awesome.

Who are yoiu worried about?

My friend Wench is going through a tough time at the moment. She’s just moved out of her parent’s house and into her own place for the first time and she’s not coping very well. She isn’t settling in to having her own place or having her routine for getting to work screwed up. I wish there was something I could to do help

Who are the people in your life who really undertsand you?

Natalie is probably the person who gets me the most. She’s the one who schemes alongside me and encourages me to shenanigan. She understands both chronic pain and depression/anxiety and seems to know when I need to vent vs when I need someone to help me work through things, figure out the problem and how to resolve it. She’s also kind of my hero with the things she manages to do with her agoraphobia. She’s my Buffy.
We riff dialogue and plot fic and have epic road trips and we’ve been on holiday together for the last like 7 years and I can’t wait for our epic Italy Roadtrip this summer.

Dragon comes a close second. She’s the one when I need to hear a friendly voice, who I ring when I’m in tears. We share so much of the same music and I love recommending her <i>awful</i> movies starring ‘Her Major’ Kavan Smith. We can riff fanfic ideas and talk for hours, but happily sit quietly in the same room listening to music and reading. Her parents ‘adopted me’ for the last couple of Christmases after my mum died

Who in your life is most like you?

I’m pretty sure they broke the mould when they made me – there’s no-one out there quite like me.

There are times Natalie and I seem to share a brain cell. We will have the same thought at the same time. We definitely have a lot of the same interests but at the same time, we’re so completely different and into different things.

I suppose the same can be said for most of my friends and me. We’ve got the places where we come together and love the same things, and think the same thoughts but also have vastly different ideas and beliefs and interests and that’s what makes the world go round and means we have some fantastic and interesting conversations.